When You Wish You Were an Extrovert

When I was younger, I used to think I was 'weird' because I didn't like being in big groups. That there was something wrong with me because I was happy only having one 'best friend'. 

Photo taken in Notting Hill, June 2018

Photo taken in Notting Hill, June 2018

As I've gotten older, I thought I was a hermit because the thought of networking made me nauseous. Like, I would rather do just about anything else than try to talk to a room full of strangers. 

Coming to terms with my own level of introversion has been a long process. I find myself naturally drawn to extroverts (probably as a way of balancing myself out), but I also always found myself constantly comparing their social habits to mine.

 I once dated someone who enjoyed having lots (and lots) of friends. I swear, this guy could run into a "close friend" from two past lives ago in the middle of a deserted highway. It seemed to me that everyone he ran into was one of his 'close friends'. 

As a younger, less confident version of myself, this really made me question my own ability to make and maintain friendships. What was wrong with me that I didn't have close friends on every corner? 

And the answer was, and still is, nothing.

Society kinda teaches us that part of being successful is having excess amounts of people around who like you. There's nothing wrong with the way he is, but there's also nothing wrong with the way I am. We all come into this world with our own unique levels of extroversion and introversion, no one way is better than another.

While making and maintaining larger quantities of friendships is a positive of being extroverted, as more of an introvert, solo travel comes much easier to me. I'm comfortable on my own, and I feel more approachable by others when I'm not in a group. I'd much rather someone come to talk to me than the other way around! Haha

 I may never be a networking queen, but some of the best parts of me come out when I've had time by myself. No one is 100% introvert or 100% extrovert, but whatever fraction you hold of each, embrace it and use it to your advantage. Your unique balance is setting you up for some great things, even if you don't see them just yet.

Any extroverts out there want to share what life is like in their shoes?