The Importance of Dating Yourself


Today's post is going to be short and sweet cause I have a point that needs to be made, and you may not like it.


And that reason isn't that you're a horrible person, or that there are "no good guys/girls left".

For those who have been in committed relationships before - you know how much work it is! You can't always put yourself first. You can't always do whatever it is you want to do. There's got to be some level of sacrifice, and don't get me wrong, it can be a beautiful thing! 

But what if you end up sacrificing key parts of you, only because you don't fully know yourself yet?

You know that "single" phase of life that everyone claims will last forever? Spoiler alert: It won't. 

I believe everything happens for a reason

...and I also believe we meet people for a reason. If you aren't meeting people you like, or your dates just aren't working out, maybe its because its not your time to be committed to someone else?

Here's a crazy idea, why don't you try dating yourself instead?

Figure out what you like. What you don't like. What your interests are. The kind of friends you like to have. The kind of place you'd like to live. Figure out your own stuff so that when you do meet the right person, they actually will be the right person for you.


If you don't have a clue how you'd like to live your life, inviting someone else into that party may confuse your preferences with someone else's.

I challenge you to spend some time alone with yourself. No significant others, no friends, no family. Go to coffee, lunch, on vacation by yourself. What do you feel called to when no one else is there? This is when you are going to find out more about yourself than ever!

And if you think "she doesn't know what she's talking about", trust me, I do. For a long time I only felt comfortable with myself if I was dating someone (my friends can attest to this - lol). Being single and taking the time to learn about myself made me realize how badly I wanted to see the world, and how little I care about finding the perfect 9-5 job (at least right now).

I found freedom and self-acceptance, what will you find?